In a world where every sentence that you blurt out is heard with a suspicion, people don’t take time to classify it either as sexist or racist. But then how do you explain the obvious differences that you see and feel. In this internet world where everything is so hyped that people sometimes don’t get the gist of what is being said and instead either blow it up or drill it down. So, let me tell you beforehand. The idea behind this post is not to be sexist, maybe feminist. Primarily it is about certain things which Men and women do too differently. Again, there are outliers, the so called “exception classes”.
Men aren’t emotional. Even if some are, they don’t express it the way we do. Two women talking to each other, friends for ages now, discussing the world on a cup of coffee. A third one joins, the women speak to each other from the language of their eyes and they change to a common topic. They also feel a bit irritated. There is an inherent possessiveness in their friendship. The entry of the third one makes them uncomfortable. They make sure that after the third one leaves, some time is spent with each other to finish the conversation they were in the middle of.
Similar example, but this time it is two men discussing the world on a cup of coffee. A third person joins. Nothing changes for the two men. They continue to discuss, the third person adds his opinions. There is no sense of irritation, forget possessiveness. The problem occurs when a Man and woman are talking and the third one joins. Each one behaves in a very different way than other. The woman jumps topic but the man stays too casual and this ‘being casual’ is definitely understood by the woman.
I don’t understand if men are not concerned or they don’t show concerns. When women talk, they always acknowledge others, in a funny manner or in a good note and their idea behind that is feeling related/connected to the person they are talking about. Men will not shy away to receive services like an all time food & beverages supply to housekeeping to taking care of the children at home. They will chat with the guests at home but I haven’t seen them acknowledging the efforts nor have I seen them inviting women to their conversations. They think that everything is understood. No, a ‘thank you’ helps. It makes one happy. That’s a reward for the services delivered.
How many men say a ‘thank you’ to their wives or partners on a dinner table. If they did in India, it will be a cultural shock to me. Generations have not done it and in the current age where so much has changed but a few things have not. How many lend that helping hand to their partners at work outside office?
Women like discussing the past but Men don’t. Men read minds but women read hearts. Many things are not as before, they are changing for the good but some are not moving at all. No wonder people are willing to stay single than be part of the non-reciprocated, un-loved environment. We women are soft at heart and we deserve love and fun. More of it. Sex cannot compensate for anything. That word and act, both are simply too overrated. My Grandfather used to say, ‘Women are like flowers. You care for them and they will brighten up your place. You ignore them and they will die’. To all the Men – Don’t let that woman die. Cheer her up, make her happy. You will be amazed at what she will give back to you.
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